Koreans think marriage is the most important passage in
one's life and a divorce is regarded as a disgrace not
only for the couple but also for their families ¡ª still
the divorce rate is growing rapidly these days.
Today's typical wedding ceremony is somewhat different
from what it was in old times: first a Western-style ceremony
is usually held at a wedding hall or a church with the
bride wearing a white dress and the groom wearing a tuxedo,
then later in the day the bride and groom have a traditional
ceremony at a different room in the venue, in colorful
Wedding In Korea, the marriage
between a man and woman represents the joining of
two families, rather than the joining of two individuals.
As such, the event was often called Taerye (Great
Ritual), and people from all over participated.
Steeped in traditional Confucian values, the ceremonies
and events surrounding the actual marriage were long
and elaborate, from the pairing of the couple to the
rituals performed after the ceremony.
In the traditional Korean marriage, the elders of
the prospective bride and bridegroom's families decided
on all matters regarding the wedding, including the
decision of whether or not to marry their son and
daughter to each other.
¡æ Nabcheh ¡æ Nabpheh ¡æ Chinyoung 1st Step: Ewheehon
It is a formality that the bridegroom-side
and the bride-side discuss about nuptial. In the korean
traditional wedding ceremony they value family and
customs of a family above everything else. A matchmaker
from both families look into family, scholarship,
personality and a material harmony of the bridegroom
and bride as predicted by a fortuneteller. Then they
determine whether they will permit this nuptial or
not. In general the Ewheehon is determined when the
bridegroom-side sends a proposal letter of marriage
and the bride-side sends a reply letter which permits
this marriage. In this process only the parents of
both families could see the bridegroom and bride.
Step: Napchae (Date Setting)
It is a formality that they send a Sajoo and receive
it because an engagement of a young couple has been
accomplished. When the bridegroom-side receives an
engagement letter or a message from the bride-side,
the bridegroom-side sends the Sajoo and a Nabchehmoon
which are wrapped in a red cloth wrapper to the bride-side.
They estimate a fortune of the bridegroom and bride
and the bride-side let the bridegroom know of a wedding
date. That is a Youngil. Now a days they change a
Nabcheh to Nabpheh. 3rd Step: Napp'ae
After they finish the formality
to send the Ewheejejang , the bridegroom-side sends
an article essential to a marriage ceremony, a marriage
letter and the Honsooharm for the bride before they
have the wedding day. It is called a Nabpheh. The
marriage letter is an important thing and the bride
keeps this letter for her whole life as a mean of
serving but a single husband. When the bride dies,
they bury this marriage letter with her. If the bridegroom-side
is not rich, they send just the marriage letter and
a Chehdan. The Chehdan are a red and a blue silk for
skirt. If the bridegroom is rich, they often send
other dress materials. It is called the Bongcheh. 4th
It is a formality that the bridegroom
goes to marry to bride-house .
The Chinyoung is performed as order of the Junanlyh,
Gyubealyh and the Habgeunlyh.The wedding ceremony
is progressed by an officiator.
Junanlyh It is
a formality that the bridegroom arrives at
bride-house with a Gilucabi and gives a wild
goose to the bride's mother. these days they
use a wooden wild goose instead of a live
wild goose. The wild goose keeps a preordained
tie until they die so bridegroom gives the
bride's mother a wild goose as a promise to
grow old together. The Gyubaelyh
When Junanlyh is finished, the bridegroom
and bride face each other in the Choilyechung. That is their first meeting. After
they finish the meeting, they bow to each
other. They promise to grow old together in
this Gyubealyh. The Habgeunlyh
It is a formality that they fill two cups
and two gourd dippers with wine and drink.
It is called a Geunbealyh. Drinking the wine
of the cup means that they enter into a relation
as a husband and wife. Drinking the wine of
the gourd dipper means a harmony of a husband
It is a formality that the bride
sgreets the parents-in-law. It is her first time to
meet her parents-in-law. According to the past wedding
ceremony, the bride has the bridal night in the bridegroom
house and gives a big bow to the parents-in-law early
in the next morning. It is called a Hyungoolyh or Hyungoogolyh.
The Pehbeck is that the bride prepares some foods for
the parents-in-law when she salutes them. The Pehbeck ceremony Lay a mat on a main floor and set up Byunghoong
which is a folding screen .
The bride's father-in-law sits to the east and the bride's
mother-in-law sits to the west. Even though there are
the bride's grandparents-in-law, the bride first bows
to her parents-in-law ?and then bows the grandparents-in-law.
After that, the bride bows the other family members.
Today the bridegroom and bride give a big bow to the
parents together but in the past wedding ceremony only
the bride bowed and the bridegroom stood behind his